1. Warped perspective
Human brains are a complexity of experiences, fears, other emotions and developed instincts. If three people watch a crime, often these three people do not all choose the same perpetrator from a lineup.
We have the ability to - and do - use denial when reality is too painful to bear. We distort our perspective to make it feel bearable.
2. Envy and jealousy
Humans compare themselves and their circumstances - all the time. The nagging voices in our minds, our fear of unworth, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of pain, fear of not measuring up, eat away at us.
These ANT’s (Automatic Negative Thoughts) become so familiar that they are ‘comfortable’ to us. It is only through discipline - practice of gratitude, connection to the Divine, and tiny constant good actions that the insecurities and stress can be diminished and replaced by happiness.
3. Criticizing, judging and condemning
Envy and jealousy at work! As a result of the ANT’s, we criticize, judge and condemn others, distorting once again, our perspective, to fool ourselves to make it feel bearable.
4. Worrying about what others think of you
The ANT’s are basically criticizing, judging and condemning ourselves, distorting our perspective to minimize our awareness of the pain. If we can just make the other person happy, then perhaps, just perhaps, we are worthy!
Distortion can only be replaced with happy, valid, great thoughts through gratitude, connection to your Divine part, and your daily disciplines. Just think how great you will feel!
Happy, happy, happy for you!
Dr Chris Baker
Dr. Chris Baker is Past President of the American Orthodontic Society, a pediatric dentist and teacher of orthodontics, An author, dental practice consultant, mentor, and a current or former faculty member of three U.S. dental schools, Dr Chris practices and blogs in beautiful Abu Dhabi, UAE, and glorious Texas, USA.
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