It feels so obvious to you - he/she just doesn’t understand. You’ve said it clearly; you’ve tried - what about it is not understandable?
Am I really loved?
Is he/she trying to be a jerk?
Problem is, your perspectives are different.
Your personalities are different. And your understandings are different. You cannot imagine what the other actually understands, thinks, or feels, and why they do.
Instead, treat your spouse the way YOU want to be treated. Let go of the need to change his or her understanding or his or her actions. Accept. Respect. Love.
Remember how precious it is to you to have their love, their presence. Live and walk in love.
Dr Chris Baker
America's most-trusted teacher of orthodontic continuing education, Dr. Chris Baker has practiced and taught for more than 30 years, and is a current or former faculty member of three U.S. dental schools. She is a pediatric dentist, author, blogger, dental practice consultant, and mentor. Dr. Chris is also Past President and Senior Instructor of the American Orthodontic Society. She is based in Texas, USA, but lectures around the world.
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